Ask G Bitch

1. G Bitch, since the George Zimmerman acquittal, do you hate white people?

Smart-ass answer: No more than I did before.

Less smart-ass answer: All my life I’ve had to deal with people who were resentful, explicitly or through their actions and omissions, that they, boys, men, whites, had to “share” with me, either physical space, the honor roll, a particular state or school or business or event or activity. It is hard not to be resentful in turn, to divide and exclude and slander as you yourself have been. I also despise, so strongly I can feel it in my sinews, deliberate or willful ignorance, callousness, intentional mean-spiritedness, hate justified by religion or “common sense” or “tradition” regardless of the speciousness of its origin. I could say this about “white people,” the GOP, individuals, particular movements, etc. It is not “whites” that I hate but the social construction of White that sees White as raceless but superior, colorblind yet firm in the belief that White is what it is/means to be Human and others are Other and not-as-human-as-White-Me, that assumes that nothing can work or make sense unless whites are in charge or the primary beneficiaries. Do you lose when you share?

But I’m A Nice Guy from Scott Benson on Vimeo.

Or when you have to admit you’re a fucktard using fear as a political tool? Or are so full of fear—you find that you actually need that someone else, or those someone elses, and that need makes you so scared you might reveal need or, worse, lose the supply for that need—you malign, destroy, demean, and make as unimportant as possible all those Not-Yous out there who you are sure are more resentful than you are and just waiting to take you down to the level you put them in. The visceral fear that, for example, if women made up 50% of government across the board that they would absolutely and naturally oppress men the way women have been oppressed for oh-way-too-long. Or that brown people would enslave white folk the minute they got the chance, or go out “raping white women and stealing TVs”—those fears have more to do with the burden of the oppressor and stereotypes that keep The Others at a safe distance in a safely dehumanized set of boxes.

Do I hate white people? Or does “hate” obscure rather than reveal? “Hate” is an extreme end of a spectrum full of graytones. I have felt, and will feel again, anger, insult, fear, resentment, a desire for revenge. I, though, am aware of and wrestle with these things instead of acting on them. To profile someone in your mind is prejudice, and can be dealt with—is that Other really less, or less human, than you are?—without being acted on. I can go through a whole lot of cracker this and pig that without anyone outside me knowing what’s going on or getting hurt. To profile someone and act on it, whether to deny a job or shoot another person in the heart to kill or simply exclude, is racism whether you like it or not.

“Racism” does not mean that some non-white person brought up race and made the whites “uncomfortable.” Racism is about wielding power. It’s worth saying again: Racism is about wielding power over others based on stereotypical/prejudicial beliefs that reduce the humanity of the designated Other. Fear does not excuse or mitigate it or the actions taken on that fear and faulty thinking.


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6 Responses to Ask G Bitch

  1. Janiebt says:

    What do you think of the minimal attendance (lack of diversity) of black people at Rising Tide? One organizer has stated that they do need to expand their outreach. Another said, “They know it’s happening. They choose not to come.” At least one attendee questioned the lack of diversity at RT and was treated rudely for tweeting about it. She says she will never go back.

  2. Janiebt says:

    I asked that question because one of the organizers suggested I ask Ashley Award winners what they thought. In my opinion, if the conference is truly about the future of New Orleans, as in the recovery of New Orleans after Katrina, then one would seek out including the 60% of the population of the city. That 60% of this city is African American. So it would seem that to not perform the outreach necessary for them to know about the existence of the conference so that they may choose to attend is to act as if they don’t exist/ they don’t count/ they are invisible.
    I find that offensive and it reeks of exclusivity.
    Further, the topics for their panel discussions should include issues that are relevant to New Orleans. Some examples would be the school to prison pipeline, the extreme incarceration of black males, the state of public education in NOLA, the effects of violence on youth growing up surrounded by violence as documented in the recent film Shell Shocked
    ( ),racial profiling, the gross inequalities that exist in NOLA, etc.
    Thank you.

    • G Bitch says:

      Excellent points raised, the exact ones I also intended to hit on. Give me a few more days. I’ll feature your question and this comment and expand from there.

      But sometimes, a G Bitch gotta work.

    • Hey, Janiebt, I think you raise fair criticisms. It’s insufficient, in my view, but the Rising Tide organizers have provided a means for people to make suggestions in terms of programming, but I see the deadline is long past:

      I’m not a RT organizer (though I went to some organizer meetings the fourth 3rd year of the conference, if I remember correctly) so I can’t speak about why they do what they do [deleted]

      Look forward to your answer, G …

      • Ann says:

        Every time I read your blog I’m impressed by how you put things & saddened at the cruelty in the world. I can’t believe the Zimmerman verdict. I don’t know what to do anymore.

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