at which a mad black woman rants about New Orleans, insomnia, teaching, education and "education," various -isms and anything involving a bitch, a spot or the letter g
From this date forward, the verb phrases “need household help” and “need household staff” will no longer be preceded by the personal pronoun “I.” The preferred personal pronoun will henceforth be “we.”*
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* Mister doesn’t like that I-need-household-help clause. Makes him look like a slacker or asshole—I forgot his exact word.
UPDATE, 11-12: Let me emphasize Mister felt/feels that clause/those phrases make him look bad. Not my interpretation or spin. See comments.
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… hmm. I think the disclaimer makes me look like an asshole too.
I am a slacker and sometimes an asshole. (Just ask my wife). But I it’s OK to say “I” because no mater how hard we try, the woman ends up carrying a disproportionate load just because she does things she knows or remembers need to be done that never occur to us.
Mister, you’re not supposed to be household help/staff. I do not expect you to clean like a maid, iron like a laundress, cook like a chef, etc. and you do not expect the same of me. Doesn’t mean shit doesn’t need to get done. A household is a job in itself. There’s always more to do than is possible if you do anything else. Women have generally made this work invisible. And covered it in cream cheese frosting and multicolored candy sprinkles. When the work becomes visible, it becomes grating to all involved. It’s the nature of the beast. Housework is like Palestinian-Israeli relations or the pro-life/pro-choice wars or racism, this huge HOT ISSUE—each side wants credit for what it has, and sometimes hasn’t, done and the push and pull starts and ends there, starts with faces pinched and arms tightly folded because somebody might say Boo instead of doing, not doing, talking, or not talking. Nagging should have no place in any of it. Creating a list for someone to uphold your standards
seems likeis a nonstarter to me. Win the skirmish for what? War is about making winners and losers, not resolution, action, change, or decision-making. War doesn’t change hearts or minds, not in a positive way anyway. “War,” “conflict”—too much heat for this discussion because there is no fight here. That said, I don’t think your involvement in household maintenance has always been as high as now/recent history. Does that make you an asshole? Only if you call yourself one because I never did. And still am not. You are not Mister My Maid or expected to be. I’ll take down the post if you want but in exchange I want my tongue-in-cheek language back.Complaint rescinded, “tongue-in-cheek language” restored. I never suggested you were making me out to be an asshole, just that the implication could be easily inferred by readers with cold, dark hearts.